Life Coaching

Don’t Let The World Poison You

Beware The Poison All Around You

So a friend texted me to tell me that I had to see the Tweet sent out today by actress Rosanna Arquette. After a quick back & forth that involved me asking him which Arquette he was referring to and debating how many Arquettes there were (I know I’m not alone in trying to figure this out ;-)), he insisted that I read her Tweet.

Here was Ms. Arquette’s tweet:

“I’m sorry I was born white and privileged. It disgusts me. And I feel so much shame.”

What!?!?

I’ve never met Ms. Arquette. But I know that the thoughts she expressed are not helpful to anyone. I think something has poisoned her. And that poison is destroying her. If she were a family member or friend, I’d be worried about her. Hating yourself is never a good place to be.

I’ve never responded to people on social media. But my friend told me that he believed that there were lots of people walking around feeling the same way as expressed by Ms. Arquette. He forcefully told me (as only a really good friend could), “You’re the Life Coach. You should say something, for all the people out there going through the same thing.”

So… I replied (Retweeted) to her with this message:

“@RoArquette I’m not sorry I was born Black. I’m not disgusted or wishful 2B anything else. I hope U stop being sorry U were born White. I’m not disgusted by U and I don’t wish U 2 feel shame. Why? If U don’t love yourself, U can’t love others. Feel love.”

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So, if my friend is right in that there are lots of people out there feeling shame or disgust or guilt about who they are, I share the following:

“It’s important to protect your body and your mind from negative stuff.”

If you watch negative stuff… If you breathe-in negative stuff… If you eat or drink negative stuff… If you engage in negative conversations… If you hang out with negative people… If you listen to negative news… then you are more likely to be unhappy, angry, become troubled, sickly, and feel stressed. “Stuff in equals stuff out” applies to you as well as computers. You’re being programmed to feel disgusted. All this negativity swirling around affects your judgment, your relationships, and the health of your mind… if you let it.

Consuming negativity is a choice.

Negativity is a fire that burns you, your relationships, and your opportunities for happiness to a crisp.

So, if you (or someone you know) find yourself wrapped in self-hate, anger, unhappiness… then I suggest you choose to…

Not allow negative stuff to enter you.
Not allow the games played by others to poison your thinking.
Not allow the constant drumbeat that you must hate someone else poison your thinking.
Understand that most media needs to keep you upset in order to maximize their profits. The more upset you are, the more revenue they generate.

If someone is trying to make you mad or envious of others — it’s because they want to control you and they don’t want you thinking logically. Refuse to play their game. Protect your mind.

One final thing: I end every letter, email, business correspondence, voice mail, and my radio show with the encouraging words, “Enjoy Life!” Try it.

By the way, please follow me on Twitter at Twitter.com/CoachMobley

Perhaps this advice will be helpful to you or a friend.

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