An Open Letter From A Father To His Daughters
Coach Mobley’s Letter To His Daughters
I suggest that all parents write a letter to their kids – no matter their ages. Why? Because your kids are growing up. Fast! Even if they’re grown, they are still in the process of becoming.
The years seem to be blowing by – – a blur of diapers, birthday parties at Chuck E. Cheese, T-Ball, volleyball games, football practices, spelling bees, Thanksgiving get-togethers, stomach aches, getting up at 2am on Xmas eve to put together and wrap the gifts brought by the wiley Santa, playdates, father-daughter dances, ear aches, lessons on how to wear bow ties, flu shots, teaching them to be confident and humble, visits to grandparents, vacations, booster clubs, teacher meetings, college tours, college applications, college parent weekends, college graduations, first jobs… and a whole bunch of dos and don’ts for them. And mistakes made along the way. The parent-struggle is real!
Oh. And being asked lots and lots of questions. And showing non-stop love, even when they get on my last nerve.
And, as they get older, they have to choose to reach out for advice for themselves more and more. That’s good. But I still have to parent.
I want my kids to take this world and craft it to fit their highest dreams. I want them to consciously shape who they become as they discover who they are.
In addition, I believe part of my enduring responsibility is to be a predictable rock that my kids can always lean on for advice and perspective. Said another way, I want my kids to know where I stand on life’s key questions and challenges.
I don’t ever want any of my kids to say, “Dad didn’t let me know about that.”
This thinking led me to write the Letter From A Father To His Daughters below. I share it with you at the request of my friends. Some of my friends told me that my letter motivated them to write their own letters. Marvelous!
I encourage you to write your own letter to your son, daughter, kids… With the written word you have the chance to eliminate ambiguity. In your voice. My only advice: Be honest. It’s never too late to write a letter. It’s never too early. And, you can never write too many letters.
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Letter From A Father To His Daughters
You Were Put On This Earth To Win!
Dear Blaster and Superstar,
I write/text/email/speak with you two virtually every day. Today I write to you as a contributor to a series of letters from Leaders to their Daughters. Please consider what I share in this letter as conversation starters. You both like to talk. I like to talk. It’s a win-win!
You are beautiful people. Every time I think of either of you, I realize that there is a God and that I have been blessed beyond all imagination.
We have traveled this great country and the world together. We have discussed things both wondrous and sad. We’ve seen a lot of things, together. I still remember the way you both responded the first time you saw me cry. My Mother had passed away, and you saw your Father sad for the very first time. As I explained to you how great a Mother she was to me, I felt a new closeness to you, your brother, and your own Mom.
I fondly recall the two of you (with your brother) cheering me on as I sprinted by with your Mother on my back during the World Wife Carrying Championship in Sonkajärvi, Finland. Let the record show that I did not drop your Mother! And while your Mother and I did not win the first place prize (the wife’s weight in beer), you all had smiles from ear to ear during the interview we gave to Russian TV after we crossed the “Finnish Line.” I don’t think I have ever seen bigger smiles.
I smile with the knowledge that you both committed to returning with me to Pamplona, Spain for my second Running of the Bulls (except this time you are old enough to run with me!).
I remember times when I spoke from the stage to large groups, and I knew that I had to be on-fire because you two were sitting in the audience. I had to make you proud of me. You make me better. There. I said it!
Oh! About your sports. I absolutely loved watching you compete during your sports careers. Nothing has ever made me more nervous than watching you two perform on the court, the field, the track, and the stage. And don’t get me started on how I felt during your spelling bee contests.
One of the things I love about you two is how much respect you show for the generations that came before you. You understand that they set the foundation for all the success you’ve experienced and the abundance yet to come.
I am proud of you two now and forever. I stand ready to support you as you chase your dreams.
Of course, you know that I spend a good part of my time as a Life Coach, helping clients win. You also know that I like lists. So, here is a list of advice from your Dad:
1. Don’t Chase The Money.
Work hard. Do what you love to do. Be great at what you do. Compete against yourself. The money will come.
2. Follow The “Good For You, Good To You, Good With You” Rule.
Don’t do anything or do anything with anyone unless it/they are Good for You, Good to You, and Good with You. And, do not settle.
3. Do Your Thing!
These are the three words I whispered in your ears before every contest you entered and test you took. They carried you through. They will continue to be your bridge to happiness and success.
4. Love Yourself Always.
Life is as challenging as it is beautiful. No matter what you face, how large the obstacle, or where you find yourself – – – Love Yourself Always.
5. Remember The “First Mobley Rule.”
I began teaching you this rule from nearly the day you were born. It is the essential first rule: “Believe in Yourself.” No love will be secure, no joy will be lasting, and no success will be fulfilling, unless you believe in who you are and why you are here.
6. Know That You Were Put On This Earth To Win.
You have a choice. You can choose to know that your destiny is to win and be great. Or, you can choose to live in self-defeating self-doubt. You’re my daughters and so you know which one to choose!
7. You Are Not A Victim. You Are A Conqueror.
It can be seductive to fall in league with those who always find their own power eclipsed by some other entity, person, or situation who, the conspiracy theorist believes, is totally focused on plotting against them. Indeed, this is the trick of many politicians. These “public servants” want you to believe that they need to fight for you because you are powerless against some evil and otherwise unbeatable foe. It’s a con job. Don’t play your life as if you are a damsel in distress. You are not anyone’s victim. You are a giant! Believe it and act accordingly.
8. However Long Life Is, It’s Too Short To Waste Time With Dream Stealers.
Dream stealers are those people, things, or habits that sap your energy, motivation, and focus. Get away and stay away from these leaches. They won’t change. You will never achieve lasting success if you keep them in your life.
9. Accept As Your Mate One Who…
A mate who makes you better. Celebrates you every single day. Who is meant for you. Who loves you. Who is kind. Who is a positive thinker. And who you love. This is not something to rush into. Take your time. I believe that this decision is most responsible for happiness (for those who get it right) and sadness (for those who get it wrong).
10. Don’t Quit. Don’t Back Down. Don’t Give In.
11. This Is Your World Too. Go Get Yours!
Never ask permission to achieve, or to go after your dreams.
12. You Don’t Get What’s Fair.
In life…you don’t get what’s fair, you don’t get what’s good, you don’t get what’s nice, you don’t get what you deserve, you don’t get what you wish for, and you do not get what you need. In life… you get what you do. Period. Make the person in the mirror DO the right things, and you WILL win at the Game of Life.
13. You Are Beautiful As You Are And As You Were Born.
Don’t let images blasted at you by media and the purveyors of negativity cause you to question your worth and appeal.
14. Dad Loves You And Believes In You, Now and Forever.
15. THE Goal Is to be Happy.
(Darryl L. Mobley’s Letter From A Father To His Daughters )
PS – I also wrote a letter to my son
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Darryl L. Mobley
Live Your Best Life!
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