What To Do When You Don’t Like Your Job
So You Don’t Like Your Job and You Want To Make A Change
I Get Questions.
I get questions (sent here) all the time. I woke up super early this morning because I needed to drop one of my kids off at the airport. I took the opportunity to do an early check-in with my assistant. He told me that more than 70 questions had already been sent in. (Let no good deed go unpunished!) Anywho, here’s one of the questions:
“Good morning Coach Mobley. I don’t love what I do. That’s my problem. I go to work and I daydream about doing something else for a living. I’m a married mother of three teenagers. Any suggestions?”
She included her phone number (pro tip: always do that) so on the way back from the airport I pulled over into a Whole Foods parking lot and I called “Emma” (not her real name) to ask some questions.
Emma shared during our conversation:
1. She feels tired from work before she even gets to work.
2. She finds herself complaining about her work to her kids and husband at dinner every day.
3. She has been promoted at work and given raises over the years.
4. She finds her work depressing and stressful.
5. She wanted to know if she should quit her job.
6. She feels that she’s wasting her life because she’s not doing something she enjoys.
7. She thinks that she’s not being her a good example to her kids.
8. Her relationship with her husband has suffered because of the way she feels about her work.
9. She wanted some help deciding what her next steps should be.
Okay! So you’re saying you don’t like your job! Good morning to you too!
Emma seemed to be in a lot of discomfort about her situation. I’ve seen this before.
Now you know me. I’m not much for offering sympathy because it rarely helps people move forward to a better place. As a life coach, I am about moving forward. As such, I prefer to be empathetic with the challenges faced by those with whom I engage. I leave it to others to blow warm air up your pant leg. As I say…
“Your Life Does Not Get Better By Chance. Your Life Gets Better With Change.”
So, I shared some thoughts that I thought would help her until we had a more formal discussion. A few of those things:
1. She needed to embrace the reality that the changes she faced would take quite a bit of personal energy.
2. She needed a superb plan to follow that would lead her to a better place no matter her decision on what she’d do. (I told her that I’d help her with that.)
3. She needed to get me her answers to some key questions I had about her, her husband, her kids, short- and long-term family goals…
4. I needed her to be prepared to take a clear-eyed look at her angle, her motivations, her finances, her life, her future.
5. I asked her to look at the way she felt about her job as an incredibly positive opportunity to live her life with intention. She should project that positivity to her kids and husband. The universe speaks to us in amazing ways.
Perhaps this advice will be helpful to you or a friend.
I think I’ll go see what’s new in Whole Foods.
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Darryl L. Mobley
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